There comes a time and place in our lives where we realize exactly what we want in life. However, sometimes that moment of realization is happening at the worst times. It’s sad to think that we as humans don’t realize what we have until it could potentially be gone. If there is something in your life that’s important to you, something you can’t possibly imagine your life without, don’t wait until the moment it’s gone to realize “this is it.” If “this is it” for you, cherish it. Appreciate it. Don’t take one day for granted. Show yourself and those around you that you love this. We are all imperfect, and we all mess up- God made us with flaws to test our love and strength. Be wise, be cautious, and don’t let the things you love the most slip through your fingers. We get one chance at life, and I wouldn’t want to live it without you.
A wise woman once told me, “Sometimes when you do too much, it can back fire at you… But always think of his future as if it’s yours. Do things for him, do things for the both of you in the long run…” It’s safe and evidentially clear that relationships aren’t easy. Or maybe they are, and maybe I’m just crazy. However, realistically we can say they’re some work. How do we live in this world and try to remain sane all while being tied to someone else? It’s tough. You’re not perfect and neither is the person you’re journying through life with. In this sh*tty world you have to find someone not so sh*tty to have your back. I’m one person that can say “I’m not good with my words.” And sometimes that’s okay, sometimes it’s not, but sometimes it is. It’s okay to not verbally speak what’s on your mind. Because sometimes words kill it all. It’s the actions you do that should make someone understand that you’re there for them. I’m not someone who is always jolly and cheerful. I have a bad attitude and I make mistakes. However, I am someone who will always have your back, even when you don’t think I do. I’m someone who is thinking of the best and hoping for the best for you and your future, even when you don’t think I’m contributing. I’m the type of person who cheers for you on the inside so you don’t get all big headed and think this is the finish line.
I am someone who appreciates, respects, and loves hard. But maybe I should express my feelings and thoughts aloud more often. I understand I’m not perfect and accept that. My heart breaks when people I care about think I don’t care about them due to my stubbornness and lack of emotion. But those who know me and those who understand me, know that I am working for myself and those I love. I have every single person’s back that I care about because I know they have mine. I’m stubborn and probably not worth it to many, but I’m worth it to myself and that should be good enough for anyone.
I’ve found my not so sh*tty person in this sh*tty world, and if you’ve found that person too, push everything aside: the stubbornness, the attitude, the lack of affection and emotion, and be there for that person just like you want them there for you. We need to realize that we are part of a team, and now it’s all about “ours.”
I never really tell you that I appreciate you. So here it is:
I appreciate that you support me
I appreciate that you believe in me
I appreciate the smiles you bring me
I appreciate that even though life gets tough and our roads begin to go their separate ways you always stick by my side and bring us back together
I appreciate the love that’s given to me
I appreciate the strength you give me
I appreciate the knowledge I gain from having you around
I appreciate the friendship we’ve created
I appreciate your loyalty
And most of all, I appreciate you
There are people we come across in our lives that we don’t really show appreciation for. That’s because they’re part of us, and we don’t naturally applaud and appreciate things about ourselves and things within our lives. Appreciate the people who deserve it, appreciate them because they’re the reason you’re happy right now. Find that person, and cherish them forever.
To allow an open door for someone to love you, you need to love yourself first. Sometimes it’s easier said than done. It’s easier for us to find flaws within ourselves that make us feel less attractive, less worthy, less talented. Yet so difficult to love ourselves with open arms. We’re all built differently, and that’s okay. But we have to be the ones to determine when it’s time for a change. Believe that if you don’t like something about yourself, that YOU have to be the one to change it and that you can. Have faith in yourself and have faith in others. Because the day you learn to love yourself is the day you’ll be able to see how many other people love you, too. You’re stronger than you think you are, and even smarter than you think you are. Use all of your capabilities in life to show yourself the love it deserves.
Life is beautiful no matter which way you look at it; when things are tough and when things are great. And sure, you’re probably thinking “why the hell would life be beautiful if it’s tough?” I’ll tell you why it’s beautiful; the most rewarding and magical moments are the ones that fall after the struggle. I’ve been fortunate enough to experience life to the fullest. The hard times, the good times, the confusing times, and the times where I couldn’t be more grateful to be alive; today was one of those days, a blessing.
Life is hardly ever the walk in the park that’s dreamt, especially when dealing with family. Family is there to get in the way, to complicate things, make your life harder, but they’re also there to make you feel the love… Which is probably why they drive you nuts. Family loves, and they love hard. They drive you crazy because they test your limits… but that’s what love is; pushing you to be all you can be. I can honestly say that’s what I grew up with, being tested. As I’m growing up I’m grateful for a not so perfect family. Growing up has been challenging, but it’s made it fun. My family has changed, and I don’t mean in their actions, I literally mean changed. I’ve created my own family, because family to me means something different than it does to other people. Blood doesn’t make you MY family. My family are the people who show me they want me to be successful and accomplish my goals, and vice versa. I promise to myself and the people that I call my family, that I will ALWAYS stand by them and push them to success, through the good and the bad times.
I will do better for my family, for my nieces and nephews, my brother and sisters, my moms and dads, and for the person who’s always giving me the tough love I’ve always needed. Thank you to the new addition to our family, Benjamin Patrick Gomez, born March 2, 2015, for the little reminder that we all have a little extra motivation to keep us moving along this year. Happy birthday, Ben!
Being an adult sucks. Falling in love sucks. You have to know when to give someone the space they’re asking for, even if it’s the last thing you want. Life’s all about decisions and nows the time to make the hardest one of your life- do you fight, or give up. Being young and in love isn’t fair. You don’t know what your future looks like. You don’t know if this is your first love, second, or if this is the one. But if deep in your heart, you feel like you can’t and don’t want to picture your life without this person, don’t give up. Life’s no walk in the park, especially when dealing with relationships, but it’s almost always worth the fight. Prove to that special someone that you’re going to keep fighting, and going to prove them wrong by showing them you’re the one. Let this be your motivation to show them the last few years wasn’t a waste of time. Couples grow, and the individuals grow also. People make mistakes and they learn from them. Don’t be selfish. Don’t make your mistakes and not give the other person their turn to make theirs. A strong, beautiful bond is one that picks each other up, forgives, and moves forward hand-in-hand.
Fight for something you love. Fight if it’s important to you. Fight if it’s someone you love. Fight if you know that in the end the bumps and bruises will have been worth it. Fight to be a better person in life. Fight the battles and win them all. There is something or someone out there in this world that’s worth fighting for. Find it, and fight hard. If you want it, go get it- and don’t stop until it’s yours. The best thing in life are free, but they also don’t come by so easily. Build yourself up to be someone strong, to be someone pushing for more out of life. Life truly is about winning, because it’s a constant battle. There’s going to be someone prettier, more handsome, smarter, and all of the above and in betweens; but there will never be another you. And there is someone or something out there that’s waiting for you to fight for them/it.
Do things for someone else.
Share your happiness with someone else.
Share your success with someone else.
Care for someone else.
Succeed for someone else.
Appreciate someone else.
Love someone else.
Strive for perfection in life, and for success, but do it with and for someone else. Having someone to share the big moments with, or having someone motivating you to accomplish something is more rewarding than just doing it for yourself. Granted, we should do and accomplish goals for ourselves, but on top of that we should be doing it for someone we love. Life is too short to celebrate alone. And by having “someone else,” I don’t mean a significant other; I mean, someone you love. Family. Friends. Anyone you could possibly love more than yourself, do it for that person.
Can’t believe it’s been 13 years since the tragedy of the twin towers. No matter how much time passes, in life changing experiences like these, they’re never forgotten. It’s saddening, confusing, and frustrating that we live in such a world where “accidents,” war, and violence is surrounding us. Granted, no life is perfect and easy. But it’d be nice to know we live in a world that’s safe. However, truth is, you’re never really safe and it’s never going to be easy. Be proud of who you are and where you come from, but be those things cautiously. Look out for yourself and the ones you love, and never take life for granted no matter how much of a struggle it is- because this life only gives you one chance… And you don’t get to decide when you stay or when you go.
Sometimes life seems unfair. But it’s not life that’s unfair, it’s about what you do with your life and who you surround yourself with. There are going to be people who come into your life and will either make you love it or hate you. But you’re the one who gets to pick and choose which ones stay. So, choose wisely. You deserve happiness just as much as any other person in this world. Surround yourself with positive energy and adventurous, fun, loving people. Because with people like this in your life, I guarantee life will play in your favor.