Still so weird to say… I’m going to be a mom! I’ve always been a baby person, and my boyfriend always gets mad because, “babies love you more than they love me.” It’s my calling- especially because my mom used to run a daycare when I was in middle school. However, I never thought I would be a mom this soon in my life. I had plans like everyone else. I wanted to graduate, and get married, and travel the world, and then have a family. But life never really goes the way you “plan it,” does it? And today, I can honestly say I’m okay with it because I know things happen for a reason and whatever comes my way I will take control and handle it… As a mother. Having this happen at this point in my life is truly a blessing in disguise; it’s motivated me to continue pushing for a career- I’m loading up on 5 classes in the Fall, 3 classes in the Winter (which, I’ll have the baby during midterms), and finish off strong with 3 classes in the Spring and graduate in June of 2017 with my Bachelor’s in English Literature. So, thank you, baby… For pushing me to be the woman I’ve always wanted to be. I am more motivated than I’ve ever been in my life, and it’s all for the future of my child.
I want this especially to show my child that no matter what people might say, or what people might think, you can always do what makes you happy even if all odds are against you. I will be able to tell this story to my child with confidence and pride… That I had a baby during a time that no one thought was possibly.
At just three-months, it’s been stressful. I have no control over what happens to my child as it “bakes,” and I officially have no control over my own body anymore. But I’m excited for this journey, and I’m excited to share the good, bad, sad, and happy times of it all. Ready for this roller coaster ride…. No, seriously, these hormones are so up and down- help!
Life never seems fair, really. You work too hard. You try too hard. You love too hard. And then it all feels like you did it for nothing. But you’re wrong, it was for something. For the sake of pushing yourself and bettering yourself as a human being. For making yourself feel worthy and strong enough. You can stress yourself out by juggling a million things at a time, or take things at a slow, steady pace and make it the best you can… all while being happy. Be a lover of life, not someone who hates every moment of it. The only thing we have in this life is the freedom to be happy and be who we are. Don’t let it go to waste because you think you need to kill yourself tryna play the game. You’re smart, you’re strong, and you’re great. Let it shine, and embrace the one life you’ve got.
I love when people sit around and wait for something to happen in their life. I’m not saying I’m the most energetic person in the world and that I expect things to happen almost instantly. I’m just in the middle. I work hard, but also know that things can’t happen over night. However, some people just don’t understand the concept of going after what you want. People don’t understand that life isn’t going to hand you your happy ending on a silver platter while you lay in front of the tv watching Lifetime movies or ESPN. If you want something, you need to get up and get it yourself. You need to work towards that thing you want so badly and stop thinking it’s going to fall from the sky one day. Whether it’s for your career, for your relationship, or for your health, you have to be the one to take initiative to make a change and make a difference.
Happy New Years everyone! As we’ve entered the new year, everyone’s mentality is “new year, new me;” however, let’s not forget about the old you either. People look for any excuse to change who they are, and that’s good, change and motivation is good- but change isn’t everything. That job you hated and quit because you thought it was a waste of time, lesson learned.. It helped you realize that’s not the field you want your career in. That boyfriend or girlfriend you broke up with because it was a waste of time, showed you what not to do in your next relationship. The body you so desperately want to leave behind in 2014, is the reason you’re pushing for a healthier lifestyle. Just because things seem bad, or seem like a waste of time, doesn’t mean they are. Most of the things we hate most in life are our most valuable lessons. Stay motivated, but remember who you are- the old, and the new.
End of the day. Finally, case of the Monday’s, over. Just take all the stress, headaches, and frustration from today’s back-to-reality attitude, and turn it into something positive. Use it to strive for a better week to come. Be appreciative and thankful that you have work, even if it gives you headaches; that you have an education, even if it stresses you out; that you have loved ones who are always on your back, even if they frustrate you. Have a better attitude tomorrow. And if you’ve had a good day today, remember that positivity tomorrow. Don’t start a week happy and end it poorly, and if it started poorly, end it happy. The point is, don’t let the word “Monday” ruin everything; pretend it’s Friday, everyone loves a Friday. Don’t label the days of the week, because it’s little things like that that throw off your mood and put bad vibes in your head.
Be happy, be great, and be positive. I truly hope the rest of the week is a great as you make it.
Life isn’t “life” unless you’re living happy. Work is “work” if it’s not something you love. School isn’t education unless you’re really learning. We lose friends, and we gain new ones. Our families fight, and then they get over it. Life is a never ending cycle of ups and downs; or might I say downs and ups- because no matter what negative situation we’re faced with, a positive one follows. It’s always sunny the day after it rains. So cry it out, put up with the crap you’re facing right now because once this is over, something good is coming your way. And I promise, it will end eventually and that good is on its way moments later.
– let people tell you you can’t
– let people tell you no
– feel like you’re not good enough
– let anyone make you feel like no matter how hard you try, it’s not good enough
– think the road eventually comes to an end
– think happiness is temporary
– let other people dictate your life
– give up on your dreams
– stop creating new dreams
– let people walk all over you
– let people control your happiness
– think negatively
– wish for someone else’s life
– stray away from who you
– be somebody you’re not
Be humble and appreciate what you have. Be strong and embrace your journey through life.
There are all kinds of different people in this world. There’s good people, and bad people. Happy people and sad people. Rich people and poor people. People who want change in their life and people who don’t. Who do you want to be? Do you want to be better for yourself and your family? Then stick up for yourself. Be happy for you. Be bold for you. Work hard for you. There are going to be people who ruin your day, but the only way they’ll ruin it and bring you down is if you let them. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, life is what you make of it. Here’s your chance, it’s a new week. New week meaning fresh. Set a goal for yourself this week, to be happy for 7 days straight. And remember that goal when people are putting you down. Remember that you deserve to be happy and you deserve to reach your goals. Strive…. And succeed. Succeed for the people who said you never would.
Be bold, be positive, and be humble. Be kind to those who deserve it, and even the ones who don’t. Be known as the person who’s always happy. Show no fear, but only strength. Grow as a person, as a friend, as a lover, and as a loved one. Be all you can be and more. When the going gets tough, push back and take charge. Be a leader and not a follower. Be a lover of life and all that’s around. Moral of it all is to be a good person. People love good souls surrounding them. And the people who act like they don’t, show jealousy. Be that person that people are jealous of, but be humble, because the people who bring out the jealousy in others are the people that are living life right.