I read something today that I found very interesting.
You don’t hate Monday, you hate your job.
This is something I think not many people think of. Everyone hates that the weekend is over, like they didn’t get what they wanted done. But, I’m sorry to be so blunt, whose fault is that? Um, yours. You’re the one stopping yourself from enjoying your “free time.” And those who say “I would like to do things I want, but I have to work.” Again, it’s your fault you’re “work” isn’t something you love. If you don’t see yourself doing this job for the rest of your life, why are you there? Why are you wasting what precious time you have in this life somewhere you’re miserable? Yes, you may be getting your career figured out by going to school, but thankfully for us we live in a world of opportunity: internships and the power of marketing. Market what you do in your free time to make it your career so you can finally quit your job and solely focus on that one thing you love. Take an internship to whatever you plan on doing in the future, the opportunities are there, you’re just not looking hard enough. Be someone who’s Monday is their Friday. Hell, be someone who doesn’t even know what day of the week it is because life is just that good.
This years Valentines Day photos definitely have to be one of my favorite shoots so far. As a freelance photographer, I’m always looking for DIY projects and anything to capture. Thank to both my sister and my sister-in-law for the beautiful models, my niece and nephew. Also thank you to everyone who puts up with my crazy ideas, helps me do whatever it takes to get the perfect pictures, and supports me no matter what. Little by little, I love my work and what I do more and more; and it’s all because I have a great support system. Ready for more DIY projects and 2016 photoshoots!
Be proud of yourself, who you are, and how far you’ve come. Life isn’t a race, and it sure as hell isn’t easy. Some people just get it right the first time, and then some people don’t. I don’t know about most, but I’m speaking for myself- sometimes it’s discouraging looking at the long journey ahead to get to where you wanna be. But having those thoughts, and continuing to think of everything and what needs to be done, means you see a future for yourself. Yeah, it’s hard, and sometimes you think to yourself, “shit, am I ever going to finish?” But you know what? You will. It may seem like forever and it may seem like too much time is being wasted… but you need to be proud of who you are, in addition to your mistakes. We all make mistakes and we all regret them once they’re done, but we have to push forward and own up to them. I coulda done this different and I should’ve done that better. I should’ve planned my life more thoroughly and gone through the motions- but I didn’t, and I’ve learned to accept it. Because in the end, I’m proud of how far I’ve come. To others it may seem like I’m still caught up in the same spot from 2 years ago, but I know how far I’ve gotten in those 2 years, and I’m damn f*cking proud. You know who I do it for? I do it for the people I love, and most importantly, myself. I love me and I’m proud of me- and I won’t let anyone take that away from me, no matter how many rocks are thrown and how many bumps in the road I hit… I will keep pushing myself, and I will continue to be my #1 fan.
First, I’d like to start out by saying I’m sorry for my lack of posts in the recent weeks; my schedule has been beyond crazy. Sure, I’ve had a few minutes here and there that I could have squeezed in a post, but then it would have been forced. When I blog or when I “write” I like for it to come naturally, something that actually means something to me, or something that’s happening in that moment in my life that could potentially be happening to others. But here I am, sitting at school, attempting to study for what feels like the midterm of my life, and all I can think about it blogging. Crazy, isn’t it? How someone can love something so much? And I’m not talking about how I love blogging, I’m talking about how I love writing. I’m lucky enough to have found something I’m passionate about; and that’s what life really is, isn’t it? Finding something you love and turning it into a career? As an English major I have a love/hate for reading and writing. I hate that in school I’m forced to do, yet when I’m not doing either of the two, I find myself yearning for it (hence, reasons why I started a blog). and It’s funny because it’s not only with English that people are like this, and it’s not only me that’s like this; people feel this way about so many things. For example, you can be an accounting major and hate every minute of it while you’re in class, but you think about your future as an accountant and it all seems worth it. Same for business majors. You stress yourselves out, pull your hair out doing presentations and papers; yet you have so many ideas and visions that it makes you excited to put it all to the test in your future. That’s what life is, finding something you love and running with it, turning it into something magical, something you’re passionate about. Hate it now and love it later; turn your hard work into something you can’t live without.
Life never seems fair, really. You work too hard. You try too hard. You love too hard. And then it all feels like you did it for nothing. But you’re wrong, it was for something. For the sake of pushing yourself and bettering yourself as a human being. For making yourself feel worthy and strong enough. You can stress yourself out by juggling a million things at a time, or take things at a slow, steady pace and make it the best you can… all while being happy. Be a lover of life, not someone who hates every moment of it. The only thing we have in this life is the freedom to be happy and be who we are. Don’t let it go to waste because you think you need to kill yourself tryna play the game. You’re smart, you’re strong, and you’re great. Let it shine, and embrace the one life you’ve got.
To allow an open door for someone to love you, you need to love yourself first. Sometimes it’s easier said than done. It’s easier for us to find flaws within ourselves that make us feel less attractive, less worthy, less talented. Yet so difficult to love ourselves with open arms. We’re all built differently, and that’s okay. But we have to be the ones to determine when it’s time for a change. Believe that if you don’t like something about yourself, that YOU have to be the one to change it and that you can. Have faith in yourself and have faith in others. Because the day you learn to love yourself is the day you’ll be able to see how many other people love you, too. You’re stronger than you think you are, and even smarter than you think you are. Use all of your capabilities in life to show yourself the love it deserves.
I love when people sit around and wait for something to happen in their life. I’m not saying I’m the most energetic person in the world and that I expect things to happen almost instantly. I’m just in the middle. I work hard, but also know that things can’t happen over night. However, some people just don’t understand the concept of going after what you want. People don’t understand that life isn’t going to hand you your happy ending on a silver platter while you lay in front of the tv watching Lifetime movies or ESPN. If you want something, you need to get up and get it yourself. You need to work towards that thing you want so badly and stop thinking it’s going to fall from the sky one day. Whether it’s for your career, for your relationship, or for your health, you have to be the one to take initiative to make a change and make a difference.
There comes a point in your life where you say to yourself, “enough with the bull, I gotta pick it up.” I know I always rant about how being young shouldn’t mean anything, but it’s always a subject of conversation because it’s the truth. The most irritating thing in life is not getting the same opportunity as someone half way through life already. It’s not your fault you were born in the year that you were born. Opportunities and motivation in life shouldn’t be based on age, but rather on your willingness to put in the work that is needed. You can’t have “experience” if no one is willing to give you the chance to GAIN the experience that so many businesses require. Life is a never ending battle of inequality. African Americans had to fight for their rights. Women had to fight for their rights. And it seem as though in today’s society, the youth is constantly fighting for their rights. How is it fair that someone at the age of 23 who’s willing and able to be successful and push themselves loses in the battle for a position over someone who’s let’s say 42. And why would they lose the battle? Because companies see someone who’s older and think “they probably have more experience, they could probably do more for us.” Sure, that could SOMETIMES be the case.. But not always. Wouldn’t companies want to bring in someone fresh and young, to continue on with the company? I guess not. My point is, is that it shouldn’t be this difficult for young people to get their foot through the door in this big world. Hello, land of opportunity.. Give us that opportunity to prove ourselves worthy.
Life is beautiful no matter which way you look at it; when things are tough and when things are great. And sure, you’re probably thinking “why the hell would life be beautiful if it’s tough?” I’ll tell you why it’s beautiful; the most rewarding and magical moments are the ones that fall after the struggle. I’ve been fortunate enough to experience life to the fullest. The hard times, the good times, the confusing times, and the times where I couldn’t be more grateful to be alive; today was one of those days, a blessing.
Life is hardly ever the walk in the park that’s dreamt, especially when dealing with family. Family is there to get in the way, to complicate things, make your life harder, but they’re also there to make you feel the love… Which is probably why they drive you nuts. Family loves, and they love hard. They drive you crazy because they test your limits… but that’s what love is; pushing you to be all you can be. I can honestly say that’s what I grew up with, being tested. As I’m growing up I’m grateful for a not so perfect family. Growing up has been challenging, but it’s made it fun. My family has changed, and I don’t mean in their actions, I literally mean changed. I’ve created my own family, because family to me means something different than it does to other people. Blood doesn’t make you MY family. My family are the people who show me they want me to be successful and accomplish my goals, and vice versa. I promise to myself and the people that I call my family, that I will ALWAYS stand by them and push them to success, through the good and the bad times.
I will do better for my family, for my nieces and nephews, my brother and sisters, my moms and dads, and for the person who’s always giving me the tough love I’ve always needed. Thank you to the new addition to our family, Benjamin Patrick Gomez, born March 2, 2015, for the little reminder that we all have a little extra motivation to keep us moving along this year. Happy birthday, Ben!
Being an adult sucks. Falling in love sucks. You have to know when to give someone the space they’re asking for, even if it’s the last thing you want. Life’s all about decisions and nows the time to make the hardest one of your life- do you fight, or give up. Being young and in love isn’t fair. You don’t know what your future looks like. You don’t know if this is your first love, second, or if this is the one. But if deep in your heart, you feel like you can’t and don’t want to picture your life without this person, don’t give up. Life’s no walk in the park, especially when dealing with relationships, but it’s almost always worth the fight. Prove to that special someone that you’re going to keep fighting, and going to prove them wrong by showing them you’re the one. Let this be your motivation to show them the last few years wasn’t a waste of time. Couples grow, and the individuals grow also. People make mistakes and they learn from them. Don’t be selfish. Don’t make your mistakes and not give the other person their turn to make theirs. A strong, beautiful bond is one that picks each other up, forgives, and moves forward hand-in-hand.